June 15, 2018

5 Years

Austin and I are celebrating our fifth anniversary today. It seems like we were married last year, but at the same time, I can't remember what my life was like before him. In the last five years, we've made two major cross-country moves, owned two homes, had a beautiful baby and have made countless memories together. While it's not always been sunshine and rainbows, there is no one else in the world I'd rather go through this journey with.
People often make comments to me that I have the "perfect marriage" and the "perfect husband." Yes, I was blessed to find an incredibly patient and caring man, but no marriage is perfect. All marriages take work it's just a matter of how much effort, love, and patience you are willing to give to one another. 

My parents divorced when I was in high school so I really had no idea what a real marriage should look like. It wasn't until I met Austin that I understood what it felt like to love someone with every fiber of my being.  Despite my fears about marriage, it was different with him, I just knew he was "the one."

Sometime during our first year of marriage, I read an article that resonated deep in my core and completely changed my mindset about what marriage should look like. The article said that "marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy". It goes on to say "Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

This concept blew me away. I was raised in a household where affection was seldom shown and "I love you's" were few and far between. My parents are wonderful people individually, but as a couple didn't set this kind of example. So, I vowed that going forward, I would always lead with love.

Sometime over the years, it's become second nature to always put my husband, and now, our daughter first. It's become an innate part of who I am to always show them love, and in that love, kindness and patience. 

After five years I can honestly say that we make each other better people. When you're willing to put love and patience into your relationship, you receive so much love in return.


Smith, Seth Adam. “Marriage Isn’t For You” Seth Adam Smith, 2 Nov, 2013, https://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/

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